"The most intelligent people are the most sexual people. This has to be understood, because love energy is basically intelligence" (p111)
I'm not sure if I agree with this quote 100%, but I appreciate the inherent sex positivity of it: that being sexual, being in tune with your sexual energy and interests, is a positive and affirming thing. I hear in this quote that intelligence means that you know yourself and know how to relate to people you are sexually and romantically interested in. And I appreciate that message.
"Let this be a fundamental rule of life, one of the most fundamental: Whatsoever you are toward yourself, you will be toward others. If you love yourself, you will love others. If you are flowing within your being, your will be flowing in relationships, also. If you are frozen inside, you will be frozen outside, also. The inner tends to become the outer; the inner goes on manifesting itself in the outer" (p214)
I love this message. It is an excellent reminder to continue working internally so that my behaviors match my intentionality. And also to remember that if my behaviors do not jive with what I want, that I am not done working on something internally.
"...you can enjoy aloneness only if you can enjoy relationship. It is relationship that creates the need for aloneness, it is a rhythm. When you moved in deep undertanding with somebody, a great tired arises to be alone. You start feeling spent, exhausted, tired--joyously tired, happily tired, but each excitement is exhausting. It was tremendously beautiful to relate, but now you would like to move into aloneness so that you can again gather yourself together, so that again you can become overflowing, so that again you become rooted in your own being" (p234)
I really like this quote. It reminds me a lot of Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity, and her overall message that there must be space within in a relationship if it is to flourish. The pendulum constantly swings back and forth between togetherness and separateness. I have found this to be true in my relationships, and the reminder of the constant change in life is comforting.